Whether it's a toxic family member, a friend you just can’t be around anymore or a former romantic partner, it’s sometimes necessary to cut people off. Often it’s because they're violating your boundaries in ways that are detrimental to your mental wellbeing. This may include being physically abusive, emotionally toxic or stealing your time and money. They may be “energy vampires” that suck up all the positive energy you have to give and even cause you to feel sad or down after spending time with them. They may also be holding you back from your dreams, sabotaging your reputation or blackmailing you in a professional context.
If you decide to cut someone off for good, it’s important to think it through carefully before you actually say the words in person. This can help you clarify your thoughts and articulate how you’re feeling about the situation. In a best-case scenario, the person may accept what you’re saying and wish you well. However, in the medium to worst-case scenarios they will be angry, blame you or resist being cut off. In these situations, Truong advises that it may be best to lie.
It’s important that you don’t overly explain yourself to the person you’re cutting off because this will only confuse them and send the message that you aren’t completely sure about your decision. They will be unable to see your side of the story through their own selfish filter of victimhood and you’ll never get true closure.